HI Everybody, anybody, somebody, nobody.
This time I want to look at how people respond to too much niceness.
Have you noticed that when something is too available, its perceived value drops?
We take water for granted when it's gushingly plentiful, but it becomes more valued than gold during a severe drought.
In the same way, when someone is reliably nice, their niceness loses value because it's so plentiful. But when someone is sometimes but not always 'nice', we value their niceness as a scarce resource.
We are more likely to become addicted to gambling (or anything) when the rewards from that behaviour are inconsistent. If gamblers won every time, the act of gambling would, believe it or not, become less compelling for them and feel less meaningful.
Don't blame me; I didn't invent human nature! (Although, this principle holds good for other animals, too).
It’s worth thinking about in case you’re ever tempted to think “all I have to do is to be nicer to them and they’ll like me”.
To your value,
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